After Dark and All the Time, Escorts for Every Man
The genders have been culturally segregated in most societies, to various degrees. This practice has been tried and tested to its limits for centuries and women live in the resulting fallout. Tracking men’s whereabouts can surely change that. So, let us have a female escort for men after dark- or heck, all the time!
The segregation of women has stunted their growth in many countries. Even in a country like India, where there is cultural sanction to respect women and where women can rise in their professions to the highest levels, even as judges and political leaders, we find that women are not considered respectable when they venture outside the house without a male escort. This prevents them from organizing or activating for their rights, socializing with each other or just having the “Right to Loiter”, without the eyes and ears of men automatically censoring the words they speak. Any woman in whole swathes of rural India, has to be in a segregated or submissive position. While women don’t need to dominate men, we do need to monitor men’s whereabouts and thus prevent rape. Society should scrutinize all men seen loitering in the wee hours at night, the way it questions women’s integrity for the same behavior, all around the world.
Rapists are known to their victims. All around the world, 98% of men who rape children, women, other men and animals, are known to their victims. We can solve this problem by having a female escort for all men. When men enter or leave a building, a woman might approve his passage. If men want to gather in public, the group must meet in enclosed venues that women monitor. Men at home must have permission to be in a room with anyone they could potentially rape, even if that home is The White House or a Saudi palace.
Rapist men often rape in pairs and groups. Women might want to start monitoring the friendships of their male family members. Just like my father did with any male visiting me from college in India, women must sit with their sons and listen to their conversations with male companions, to make sure that no evil influences corrupt their sons. I want to believe that many of the rapists in gang rape instances, would not like to brutalize another human, but they have no way to overcome the peer pressure. Let’s remove that peer pressure. Let’s monitor the prominent men, explore their motivations and groups and ban any exclusive male clubs.
Most men are not rapists. However, the reputation of a man is never tarnished when he exercises his right to flirt, speak up, dance or socialize. Women, especially single or articulate women, are currently viewed as fair game for gossip and speculation. I live in San Francisco and I find that this is true even here. We could, instead, be deeply suspicious of men who make lewd jokes, smoke cigarettes, drink too much or exhibit signs of intellectual competence, instead of attributing that to some kind of desirable manly quality. That will balance it all out.
As the single civilization that the world has become, we have failed in evolving our public discourse. The media has been debasing every conversation for its own gain. Trolls of all shades colour our collective analyses of world events. People recoil in horror from media content with any semblance of critical thinking or science. Let us also exercise our right to be obnoxious and make an absurd demand for female chaperons for all men. Aim for the moon.
Emily Jones is an innocent civilian based in the San Francisco Bay Area, with perfunctory interest in the news. She sees patterns that the media often does not. She is often wrong and seldom in doubt. You can explore her musings at The Human Rights Dilettante. (https://humanrightsdilettante.wordpress.com/)